So as you all know, next weekend is Mothers Day.
This is for all the Dads out there, who may or may not be in a high conflict situation (if you are here... its probably high conflict ).
Make sure your kid(s) have a kick ass mother's day gift ready for next weekend. If you think you shouldn't because you don't get anything on Fathers day, or the school will do it for you... stop right there. This has nothing to do with the school. This has nothing to do with you. It doesn't even have anything to do with their Mom. It has everything to do with your kid. Years ago, it was fathers day; and sure enough my kids didn't have anything for me. Didn't bother me so much - I knew at the time my ex wasn't going to do anything to help in that department (things are different now their Mom and I get along extremely well).
So my young boy comes up to me, with a jar of stuff he scavenged from around his room... a figit spinner, a half container of tic tacs... that sort of thing. It broke my heart to this about what he must have been going through. He was desparate to do something for me but was powerless - so he had to resort to desparatly searching his room because he felt bad for not having something for me.
Imagine how bad your kid will feel if he shows up on Mothers day with nothing to give Mom. How does a parent's heart not weep for a kid compounding guilt on guilt year after year when Mother's day, Mom's birthday, or xmas comes around.
Take your kid this weekend (or this coming week if you don't have them now), and get whatever they want to get for Mom. And then help them arrange for flowers to be delivered or something extra special. Imagine how grateful your kid(s) will feel towards you for helping them. Imagine how good your kid will feel when Mom is gushing with gratitude towards them... how loved they will feel by both Dad for helping them, and for Mom when she gushes over them.
Mothers/Fathers Day really has little to do with Mom and Dad on these days - its about the kids showing love and making a connection and getting the love back. Its about showing the kids how expressing gratitude towards others comes back and benefits them right back.
Oh - and if the kids are not scheduled to be with Mom next Sunday (maybe you don't have an order/agreement in place or something that specifies that)... she absolutely should have them.
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